tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post5906824199385864470..comments2023-11-24T08:37:35.827+00:00Comments on Peonies and Polaroids: Cold toes.....carahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09351483253361159121noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-68847732293663094912008-07-03T11:33:00.000+01:002008-07-03T11:33:00.000+01:00Oh wow I can't believe it's come so quickly!Take a...Oh wow I can't believe it's come so quickly!<BR/><BR/>Take a deep breath and take one day at a time- it'll be over before you know it :)Polka Dot Bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08814173541770616670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-24278662806403178832008-07-03T11:20:00.000+01:002008-07-03T11:20:00.000+01:00FF, congratulations on being married 10 years! I ...FF, congratulations on being married 10 years! I can't wait until The Boy and I have been married for a while. Thankfully it hasn't got bad enough to ask either of our mothers for help. I think if it got to that stage we would elope!<BR/><BR/>Flutter, you make me laugh! You'll get there. I was really antsy about setting a date for ages before we actually managed it. And then it was a date over a year later than I wanted it to be! <BR/><BR/>Courtney, I think I will be doing quite a bit of hiding to! Although not at the gym, I don't like the gym! More likely in a cake shop somewhere. <BR/><BR/>Mocka, thank you! And greetings from Scotland to you! <BR/><BR/>Twowishes, yes it helps a lot to know that people won't care about the details! When I actually address the big things that matter - ceremony, food, drink, it seems like most of them will be fine! <BR/><BR/>And Jason, I'm glad you're making so much money dear but really, this is not the place to brag about it, a bunch of women who have just spent a large amount of money on a big party do not want to know!carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09351483253361159121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-66239704070658036222008-07-03T11:15:00.000+01:002008-07-03T11:15:00.000+01:00Amanda, I'm glad your panic is starting to lift. ...Amanda, I'm glad your panic is starting to lift. I'm sure mine will too closer to the day. 17 days is soon! I'm so excited for you. <BR/><BR/>Heather, thank you so much for leaving a comment, I do appreciate it. Your panic the night before your shower sounds so familiar to me. <BR/><BR/>Fallonroxan, I'm so sorry no-one has complemented you and your husband on your wedding. I would be really upset by that too. Why do people think it's the mother of the bride's day?! <BR/><BR/>122lovesme, thank you. I appreciate it! <BR/><BR/>Kelly, it's good to know that we're not alone isn't it! Deep breaths and we'll be fine! <BR/><BR/>Rebekah, it's beginning to look that way isn't it!carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09351483253361159121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-7529025335352757162008-07-03T11:10:00.000+01:002008-07-03T11:10:00.000+01:00Thank you so much for all of your comments, they'r...Thank you so much for all of your comments, they're so reassuring. <BR/><BR/>Lindsay, not long! I'm worried about stage fright too. Our celebrant wants us to face our guests during the ceremony but I think that might just terrify me! <BR/><BR/>GS, thank you. It is really strange, the whole marriage/wedding paradox of something so personal being so public. And the desire to have people witness it yet to do it privately too. <BR/><BR/>Yes, we are getting married on a Friday! I hope you have a great trip north! <BR/><BR/>Littlewinterbride, I think you are completely right, when it gets to a week or two away I think the excitement will come back. <BR/><BR/>Tara, I know exactly what you mean! Suddenly all of those little details you have worked on privately need to be made public and it's terrifying. <BR/><BR/>Princess, thank you SO much. That is a really good way to look at it and it's great to be reminded of how I'll feel once it's over. I don't think I'll miss it and I don't think I'll want to do it again! <BR/><BR/>Melissa, it is so scary the thought of being the centre of attention!carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09351483253361159121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-78440959934355364262008-07-03T05:55:00.000+01:002008-07-03T05:55:00.000+01:00Beautifully put, and so true! Since your nerves s...Beautifully put, and so true! Since your nerves seem to be mostly about people's reactions to the smaller details of the wedding day, would it help to know how little the guests care about those details? <BR/><BR/>Your guests are there to celebrate their love for you, and your love for each other as new husband and wife. They will either be delighted with the actual party/wedding/decor details (and knowing your style, probably they WILL be delighted!) or they will barely notice. <BR/><BR/>(Oh, and P.S... I believe Jason would like you to know that he makes $900 extra a month. Hee.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-61285755594453737882008-07-03T04:17:00.000+01:002008-07-03T04:17:00.000+01:00i read everything you said...and i feel scared for...i read everything you said...and i feel scared for you... lol..but is true...i wish you only the best...and enjoy the life enjoy the nerves...enjoy the stress...that means that you are doing everything in the right way.<BR/>greetingss...from chile.<BR/>Damaris.Mary.-https://www.blogger.com/profile/13894571216829972493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-54240197627416427112008-07-03T03:22:00.001+01:002008-07-03T03:22:00.001+01:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-38561722985621435412008-07-03T03:07:00.000+01:002008-07-03T03:07:00.000+01:00It didn't really hit me until a few days before th...It didn't really hit me until a few days before the wedding. It was so weird. It was like, out of nowhere, I was completely overwhelmed by this thing that was so much larger than life (The Wedding). It was like it had taken on a life of its own and it was coming for me. I hid out in the gym and went shopping! I wandered around town in gym clothes with no makeup in complete denial. HA! Thank goodness for my understanding mother who let me do my thing and collect myself.Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06244717759252180346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-34776487134542211882008-07-03T00:47:00.000+01:002008-07-03T00:47:00.000+01:00I'd would actually have to have a DATE NAILED DOWN...I'd would actually have to have a DATE NAILED DOWN to commiserate.<BR/><BR/>not that I am bitter, nope.flutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-7795031627844736072008-07-02T22:25:00.000+01:002008-07-02T22:25:00.000+01:00I feel like an old married crone after reading the...I feel like an old married crone after reading these comments, but TEN years ago when I got married, I went through the exact same thing. I hadn't wanted my mother to do any of the planning ("It's MY wedding", exclaimed in a properly whiny voice), until two weeks before when I ended up bawling my eyes out under the dining room table and saying that she could have the entire rotten miserable thing. In the end, she helped me, it was an amazing, relaxed, beautiful and glorious day, and I rarely even remember the moments of panic before. It's going to be spectacular! Just look at The Boy when you start to feel like this.Alexa Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13738612490799294680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-40967233251555589262008-07-02T22:23:00.000+01:002008-07-02T22:23:00.000+01:00All of us suffer from the same disease.All of us suffer from the same disease.rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17999264774530749624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-42433222207561869172008-07-02T19:29:00.000+01:002008-07-02T19:29:00.000+01:00I am 5 weeks and 2 days away from our wedding day ...I am 5 weeks and 2 days away from our wedding day and I have had a knot in my stomach all week! This feeling JUST started and I think it is mostly because I hope everything will be nice, people will have fun and stay the whole time and that I will have enough time to finish everything!<BR/><BR/>You are not alone.<BR/><BR/>p.s. I can't wait to be married either.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843435533133603806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-4790355052525211782008-07-02T18:20:00.000+01:002008-07-02T18:20:00.000+01:00i'm not at all close to my wedding day...stil a ye...i'm not at all close to my wedding day...stil a year out. so i can't sit here and say it's normal or that it should only matter what you think and feel. all i can say is your wedding will be beautiful! i hope that you can enjoy the last few weeks of planning, and just sit back and soak up all the beauty and amazingness of your day.122LOVESMEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02710080069769535177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-56458308298243698092008-07-02T18:05:00.001+01:002008-07-02T18:05:00.001+01:00Sunday makes one month since we got married and I ...Sunday makes one month since we got married and I totally felt that way but now I feel something totally different. I think I'm upset that no one has called me to tell me what they thought of the day. Lots of people called my mother and his but no one called me. Even when we sent out the invitations it was the same way. The Mr. and I spent 18 months planning our day and I'm sad because I want feedback and we aren't really getting it.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with these last couple of days. It will be a beautiful day!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-34529196700292351942008-07-02T18:05:00.000+01:002008-07-02T18:05:00.000+01:00This is ironically a really comforting post! I bar...This is ironically a really comforting post! I barely ever leave comments but like all these other girls are saying, no one ever tells you about the anxiousness that comes with weddings, just that it is all so great. I think this is a VERY real part of the whole deal and it's good to take comfort that you're not alone. My bridal shower just happened a couple weeks ago and it was the first event where we celebrated our upcoming wedding with others. The night before I was suddenly all knots and basically a total mess. I didn't sleep. It made me worry about what I would be like on my actual wedding. The good side of the nerve situation is it seems to creep up on you at inopportune times but during the actual events it subsides. <BR/><BR/>Deep breaths! You'll be brilliant!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-54133795075890357542008-07-02T18:03:00.000+01:002008-07-02T18:03:00.000+01:0017 days to go for me, and the panic is starting to...17 days to go for me, and the panic is starting to lift. the shape of mine is a little bit different from yours... i have worried and stressed about getting everything done in time, become frustrated with the process and looked at my fiance more than once and said, "can't we just elope?" but as it gets closer, and all of the must-do's get under control, i'm feeling a little less panicky than before. if we don't finish the programs, then we just won't have programs! if we don't finish the seating chart, people will just seat themselves! all the things we need to get married (license, rings, officiant, each other) are set, so the rest is just a party. this is what i have to keep telling myself, to keep the panic at bay. <BR/><BR/>and as tara said, i worry about whether people will have fun. sure, it's just a party, but it's a party celebrating a monumental step in my life and i would like it to be, well, celebratory! i'm sure it will be fine, but most of my stress revolves around that. will everyone have a good time? like the food? be entertained? i hope so. <BR/><BR/>17 days.... yikes!amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11711266239364382681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-74121442039717886742008-07-02T17:21:00.000+01:002008-07-02T17:21:00.000+01:00I have the same feelings too:) Our wedding is two...I have the same feelings too:) Our wedding is two months and four days away! I am really excited but really nervous at the same time. It's hard for me to stop thinking about all the details and being the center of attention. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure your day will be perfect :)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10044595180736126664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-67047842699358202102008-07-02T16:15:00.000+01:002008-07-02T16:15:00.000+01:00Yeap, I went through those feelings, too. And you ...Yeap, I went through those feelings, too. And you know what? I think it's a good thing in the long-run. Because it means it'll be a relief when the whole wedding is over, and you won't miss it. (As much.) I feel sorry for the girls who are so sad when it's over, because there's a new marriage there to enjoy! My wedding was a spectacularly magical day, but I have no desire to go back and plan another one.<BR/><BR/>And the thing is, as long as you and The Boy and the officiant show up, the rest is details. And just remember to enjoy being a princess for a day!Princess in Galosheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08815709655445815674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-14351784914610288012008-07-02T15:34:00.000+01:002008-07-02T15:34:00.000+01:00I very much relate. A few weeks ago if someone as...I very much relate. A few weeks ago if someone asked me about the wedding, I would say "oh it is all undercontrol!" But now I am in a state of complete anxiety about the wedding. Not about the ceremony or the marriage... but about getting everything ready for 'public facing' is what really makes me nervous. And whether people will have fun- I mean yeah it is easy to say yes they will have fun... but they might not! <BR/><BR/>And when I stop worrying- I am just incredibly excited. <BR/><BR/>I am sure the nerves will settle!Tara Vorheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15101505998299358265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-80697814974640409292008-07-02T14:44:00.000+01:002008-07-02T14:44:00.000+01:00ciao peonies and polaroids, it's totally normal to...ciao peonies and polaroids, <BR/><BR/>it's totally normal to feel what your feeling. I too had moments similar to what your describing a few months before the wedding. I remember my father telling me that I may feel an increase of anxiety as the big day approached. I laughed and said "no way, I'm sooo fine" and then one day it hit. I was so shy about being the center of attention I didn't know what to do.... Then 2 weeks before the wedding I was back to my old self. The day of the wedding was perfect. Everything. I loved it so much I kept telling my husband, "can we do that again?" the day of, you will be on such a high, it will feel like a beautiful magical dream. It will be the best day of your life, trust me.didihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02275051224010742584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-22169867589445368022008-07-02T14:27:00.000+01:002008-07-02T14:27:00.000+01:00I have these feelings too. It seems paradoxical to...I have these feelings too. It seems paradoxical to me that something so intensely private and personal should become a group event and I feel weird about having it witnessed.<BR/><BR/>And like the Boy I remember why we are sharing it with the people we love and know I wouldn't have it any way, but it still makes me feel afraid to have it so laid open like this. I sort of want it all to big a big secret, really.<BR/><BR/>This was a great post. It's great that's you're being so honest.<BR/><BR/>Are you getting married on a Friday?<BR/><BR/>Here's a weird thing... I'll be in Scotland when you're getting married. It's the first time I've ever been, too :)Cate Subrosahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11371172824707301749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-36160337218634116982008-07-02T14:05:00.000+01:002008-07-02T14:05:00.000+01:00I am getting married in 17 days and I completely r...I am getting married in 17 days and I completely relate to what you are saying. I have put a year into planning this, and mostly by myself as all of my family is out of town. <BR/>I am excited and nervous to see this all come together. It's true that before it was planning something so far down the line and I can't believe this is actually here. I also have mixed feelings about something so personal being put on display. I just hope I don't get stagefright. Thank you for sharing, it is comforting to know this nausea I am feeling is normal.<BR/><BR/>PS Your blog has given me such great inspiration for my wedding.Lindsay Jasserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04442837584299870108noreply@blogger.com