tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post7995805556144457281..comments2023-11-24T08:37:35.827+00:00Comments on Peonies and Polaroids: Panics/Fearcarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09351483253361159121noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-35792865088426410482010-07-10T00:30:17.831+01:002010-07-10T00:30:17.831+01:00yes.
i'm afraid of too much "me" le...yes.<br /><br />i'm afraid of too much "me" leaking in. and then i'm afraid of it not being "me" enough.<br /><br />i don't want to be false.<br /><br />but my blog is a little separate from my real life. and i want some "me" to keep for myself.lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00379596904318935981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-42258857540141784892010-06-29T05:05:12.832+01:002010-06-29T05:05:12.832+01:00I know I'm days late, but: I am always nervous...I know I'm days late, but: I am always nervous when I post but I haven't had the guts yet to write any of the posts that would make me really, really afraid. (In fact I'm late commenting because I've been avoiding the whole INTERNET because I'm scared to post right now). So kudos to you for even trying, and I know you can do it (and that it will feel awesome).ALPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05098729708314853961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-52647597240915172702010-06-28T02:15:52.292+01:002010-06-28T02:15:52.292+01:00I look forward to reading your Big Stuff post.
...I look forward to reading your Big Stuff post. <br /><br />I work on managing anxiety and big fear a lot; I think it is something I will deal with for as long as I live. Writing some posts has brought clarity to me about the kind of person I aspire to be, if that makes sense. <br /><br />I realize this is not exactly what you asked. But it's what came out. And I'm sticking with it.<br /><br />xoox,<br />-mariaMaria | Vintage Simplehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02046940964809245057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-1722815976661142322010-06-26T14:24:23.094+01:002010-06-26T14:24:23.094+01:00Our fist post was very stressful--for no reason ot...Our fist post was very stressful--for no reason other than it was the first. <br /><br />I liked your guest post on Joanna's blog on marriage. Blueberries are truly powerful. :)Aronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01684686792915105465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-85456048973307253332010-06-25T18:25:13.639+01:002010-06-25T18:25:13.639+01:00Ahh, I see! it is so nicely put, I recommend a fut...Ahh, I see! it is so nicely put, I recommend a future post on fear and panics and the like. :) It helps articulate for those of us who can only spit out "uh, eh, um.. I feel some sort of crazy today."valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09843571142326144417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-18881076020380362072010-06-25T18:17:24.145+01:002010-06-25T18:17:24.145+01:00V-
I didn't say that on APW, I said that to P....V-<br />I didn't say that on APW, I said that to P. That's all of it :)Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09526722516550185150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-23701961734876945632010-06-25T17:43:46.760+01:002010-06-25T17:43:46.760+01:00Can you share the link to the post where Meg says ...Can you share the link to the post where Meg says that on APW? I couldn't find it and I'd love to see it in its entirety and be able to bookmark it. Thank you! :)valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09843571142326144417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-58465246442549259142010-06-25T09:51:30.729+01:002010-06-25T09:51:30.729+01:00I write scary posts and I publish them, because (f...I write scary posts and I publish them, because (for me) it is scarier if I keep it inside than if some freaks on the web take advantage of my vulnerability. And like A&L said, when people respond and support you, then it's refreshing. However, I don't have a huge following like you, so this is coming from a small writer; though, a lot of my audience knows me in real life. *shrug* I guess I take responsibility for what I say and they take responsibility for how they interpret what the read.blind irish piratehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13781314774264492284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-37025529424849259442010-06-25T03:38:12.690+01:002010-06-25T03:38:12.690+01:00You know, I hadn't thought about it being scar...You know, I hadn't thought about it being scary to write certain things. But now that I think about it, I realize that it is. I find that if I write something personal and there aren't a ton of comments that I've come across as crazy, selfish or completely ridiculous. But I use my blog to get stuff out of my head so I guess it doesn't have to make sense to everyone that reads it...as long as I feel better when it's done.stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05236399150738812466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-84886030806172434812010-06-25T00:13:58.670+01:002010-06-25T00:13:58.670+01:00While the most honest and hardest to write blog po...While the most honest and hardest to write blog posts that I write are the most scary, they are also the most rewarding and somehow, I get the most support from them. Sometimes, I even think that I can be more honest on my blog than in person. I haven't been the brunt of much cruelty in my comments so far, so I guess I've been lucky, but I still struggle with certain people in my life stumbling upon things I right and taking them absolutely wrong (because this happens in person all the time). The only answer is to be true to yourself. If you need to share with us, we will be here, but if you need to share with no one, we'll still be here.serahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18182268757502634911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-28185785367183536682010-06-25T00:03:27.743+01:002010-06-25T00:03:27.743+01:00I write a lot of posts when I've been drinking...I write a lot of posts when I've been drinking that never get published and that's a good thing, but there have also been several that I have posted that freaked me out at the time but I was happy I posted.<br /><br />I find that the blogs (and the people) that I enjoy the most are the ones who are raw, open and honest. And I can say after your last two posts I like you/your blog even more. <br /><br />And I also thought to myself that that is the beautiful thing about blogging, if nothing else certain posts will make people feel less alone.<br /><br />I'm not married and I don't have children, but I know that life has a way of working itself out and I'm certain that you will be just fine. You might want to read Operating Instructions by Anne Lamott. She's the queen of raw, honest and amazing.<br /><br />Best of luck to you.addie annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03416726320336650486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-74407211220269832072010-06-24T22:53:07.560+01:002010-06-24T22:53:07.560+01:00I don't write big, scary blog posts; however, ...I don't write big, scary blog posts; however, I am a writer and I've written my share of big and scary poems and memoir pieces that have been brought to workshop (which is like blogland in miniature) and some of which have also been published. I agree with the folks who say you should do it. It does make you stronger, as well as a better writer and thinker.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-2188006413963173912010-06-24T22:29:03.237+01:002010-06-24T22:29:03.237+01:00I haven't written a Scary One in a while. I sh...I haven't written a Scary One in a while. I should get back to it. They really are the most satisfying.east side bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06206689296805893265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-7859051037896057462010-06-24T22:23:21.220+01:002010-06-24T22:23:21.220+01:00Sometimes. It depends on what's in the post or...Sometimes. It depends on what's in the post or the motivation for the post. <br /><br />Big Stuff is always Very Scary.Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17468276901563947172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-45391549335543902412010-06-24T22:03:00.703+01:002010-06-24T22:03:00.703+01:00I think I used to be braver about the really impor...I think I used to be braver about the really important stuff. And then more people started reading my words and twisting their meanings a bit, which overwhelmed the feelings of yes. And so I tried to be honest-but-guarded, and it just made my thoughts and writing messier and more equivocal. And now I miss being more honest and I miss taking risks. I think sometimes, it's entirely worthwhile, especially for the truly important stuff. I think fear oftentimes hints and something that has to be done, it's just hard to figure out how to get there.A Los Angeles Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15082554090481175349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-76122074405472593052010-06-24T21:42:13.066+01:002010-06-24T21:42:13.066+01:00I tend to bottle up the big and scary stuff and th...I tend to bottle up the big and scary stuff and then let it out in one big overemotional rush - not the best habit I know. In theory though I am a big fan of the better out than in school of thought, I'm just not very good at following my own advice...Gemmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00653763434441310867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-72552244472357726332010-06-24T20:10:14.881+01:002010-06-24T20:10:14.881+01:00i used to write scary blogs when i thought no one ...i used to write scary blogs when i thought no one read me...i don't write them much anymore. cowardly i know...i want to get back to fearless blogging.Charhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03851293154388793520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-42692653541591546562010-06-24T19:57:40.917+01:002010-06-24T19:57:40.917+01:00I am scared almost everytime I post anything. I th...I am scared almost everytime I post anything. I think I live in fear of being found out, somehow. But most of the time that is manageable. <br /><br />Then there are days when I choose to post about things that aren't all kittens and rainbows and harpischords, and I get the knot in the pit of my stomach. It's often deserved.<br /><br />As for the really scary posts - they're private. I don't know whether I'll ever publish them publicly.ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07856519830658694366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-64293018892106949352010-06-24T19:49:50.258+01:002010-06-24T19:49:50.258+01:00I don't have a blog, and I don't comment o...I don't have a blog, and I don't comment often, but your post really struck me. I journal and sketch (on paper, with pen and pencil), blogging is something I keep considering. The fear you speak of is one of the things that's given me pause.<br /><br />I would say the choices we make regarding the fear, the fact that you move through it and tell your story, that is what is important.sashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10545221694107746462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-89195874791258516602010-06-24T19:48:09.772+01:002010-06-24T19:48:09.772+01:00Most times I post, I have the fear. Some much more...Most times I post, I have the fear. Some much more than others, but always a little bit. We're putting ourselves out there, so.<br /><br />But I reap the rewards.Cate Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00272234788337670115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-2020567298291421972010-06-24T18:48:14.546+01:002010-06-24T18:48:14.546+01:00So sorry you feel this way. Know the feeling thoug...So sorry you feel this way. Know the feeling though its so tough to get past.<br /><br />just want to say thank for linking to Meg's blog I've only been a fan of yours a little while and today read loads of Meg posts which helped to clear away some of my wedding panics and fears.Simone - Take My Hand My Whole Life Toohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07280819064240361013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-80134760389058934002010-06-24T18:11:37.610+01:002010-06-24T18:11:37.610+01:00Very rarely. Because most of the time it's jus...Very rarely. Because most of the time it's just pretty pictures and food, which doesn't scare me at all. <br /><br />But every once in a while I'll share something more important and then I have the fear the whole time I'm writing and before I click "publish" and then hours and hours while I wait for responses to come in and then I calm down and it feels much better. I don't have the stomach to do it every day, honestly. <br /><br />But I'll look forward to your Big Stuff post.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10211797571405802312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-35380147591140331402010-06-24T18:00:54.064+01:002010-06-24T18:00:54.064+01:00Of course, I should add that your openness about T...Of course, I should add that your openness about The Fear actually helped me come out of my shell a little and leave a comment. Progress!yellow buttercuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12653080819363054147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-49809900065165291502010-06-24T17:55:44.384+01:002010-06-24T17:55:44.384+01:00Yes, that is the most perfect definition.
As far ...Yes, that is the most perfect definition.<br /><br />As far as blogging goes, it is this very problem which has kept me from posting even one single post. It took me years of lurking to gather the courage to start a blog, though I think it would be a good outlet for me, and now it has been months and I've just been paralyzed by that boulder, unsure how to take the next step.yellow buttercuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12653080819363054147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4368120335140927600.post-72739643068594669262010-06-24T17:30:14.289+01:002010-06-24T17:30:14.289+01:00I kind of figure if I'm not scared, I shouldn&...I kind of figure if I'm not scared, I shouldn't post it. But. I really don't like being yelled at, which is a downside to this line o' work ;)But yes, I've found I need to keep up my private writing too, or I'll have nothing to share.<br /><br />Effing fear. I still need a solution, and I haven't figured it out. I just see the boulder all the time every day.Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09526722516550185150noreply@blogger.com